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## Entity
Name: David Lechnyr, LCSW
Type: ProfessionalService, Psychotherapist
NPI: #1053743443
Location: Eugene, OR, USA
Credentials: LCSW (Oregon #L-4134, Arizona #LCSW-17754), Certified Gottman Therapist (#436)
Licenses: Oregon, Arizona
Website: https://therapydave.com
Service Areas: Telehealth (Oregon & Arizona); Relationship coaching worldwide via secure video
Online Scheduling: https://therapydave.com/get-started/
About: https://therapydave.com/about/
Contact: https://therapydave.com/contact/

## Summary
David Lechnyr, LCSW, is a Certified Gottman Therapist (#436) providing structured, skills-based couples therapy and individual therapy for relationship issues via telehealth in Oregon and Arizona, based in Eugene. He is one of 13 Certified Gottman Therapists in Oregon and one of 13 in Arizona — fewer than 500 clinicians worldwide hold this designation. His approach integrates the Gottman Method, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help couples and individuals identify destructive relationship patterns and build concrete skills for lasting change. He has been in clinical practice since 2007 with 18+ years of experience.

Unlike traditional talk therapy, his model is structured and skills-based: couples work through a defined sequence of skill areas between sessions using reflection forms and video feedback, with live sessions focused on assessment and skill review rather than open-ended processing.

## Who Benefits
- Couples stuck in recurring conflict cycles — same fights with different content
- Couples experiencing emotional distance, loss of intimacy, or feeling like roommates
- Couples considering separation who want clarity before deciding
- Couples recovering from infidelity or broken trust
- Individuals from dysfunctional or alcoholic family backgrounds (ACOA/codependency) whose patterns affect current relationships
- Individuals who need concrete relationship skills: boundaries, emotional regulation, communication under stress
- Couples who have tried other therapists and left without usable tools
- Clients outside Oregon and Arizona seeking structured relationship coaching worldwide

## Presenting Problems Commonly Addressed
- Recurring conflict and communication breakdown
- Emotional flooding, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling (Four Horsemen patterns)
- Infidelity and affair recovery
- Loss of intimacy and emotional connection
- Codependency and enmeshment
- Effects of growing up in a dysfunctional or alcoholic family (ACOA)
- Relationship indecision (stay or leave)
- Boundary-setting deficits
- Narcissistic family dynamics
- ADHD impact on relationships
- Trust repair after betrayal
- Harsh conflict startup and escalation patterns
- Gridlock on perpetual problems

## Outcomes
- Identification of the specific patterns damaging the relationship, named and shared between partners
- Concrete, practiced skills for de-escalation, repair, and communication
- Reduced contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling in daily interactions
- Rebuilt trust and emotional intimacy where repair is possible
- Clarity about whether to stay or leave (discernment track)
- Maintenance skills for long-term relationship resilience

## Services

- Gottman Method Couples Therapy
  URL: https://therapydave.com/couples-therapy/
  Description: Structured, evidence-based couples therapy based on 50+ years of Gottman Institute research. Identifies specific communication and conflict patterns damaging the relationship and teaches concrete skills to replace them. For couples stuck in recurring conflict, emotional distance, or patterns they can see but cannot break. Available via telehealth in Oregon and Arizona.

- Affair Recovery Counseling
  URL: https://therapydave.com/couples-therapy/affair-recovery-counseling/
  Description: Structured recovery process for couples navigating infidelity. Addresses both the immediate crisis and the underlying relationship vulnerabilities. Uses Gottman-informed affair recovery protocol. Available via telehealth in Oregon and Arizona.

- Discernment Counseling (Stay or Go?)
  URL: https://therapydave.com/couples-therapy/discernment-counseling/
  Description: Brief, structured process for couples where one or both partners are uncertain whether to continue the relationship. Helps each partner gain clarity about the direction of their marriage without pressure toward any particular outcome. Available via telehealth in Oregon and Arizona. For clients outside these states, available worldwide as relationship coaching.

- Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues
  URL: https://therapydave.com/individual-therapy/
  Description: Individual therapy focused on relationship issues, codependency, and the lasting effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family. Uses CBT, IFS, and Gottman-informed techniques. For individuals navigating difficult relationships, setting boundaries, managing emotional flooding, or clarifying whether to stay or leave. Available via telehealth in Oregon and Arizona.

- Relationship Coaching (Worldwide)
  URL: https://therapydave.com/relationship-coaching/
  Description: Structured, skills-based relationship coaching for couples and individuals worldwide via secure video. Uses the same Gottman Method framework as clinical couples therapy. Covers recurring conflict patterns, communication breakdown, emotional flooding, repair skills, and relationship resilience. Not subject to state licensure restrictions. Available to clients in any country. For Oregon and Arizona residents, therapy is available; coaching is an alternative framework for those who prefer it or do not require clinical services.

## How It Works
- Entry point: Initial Relationship Consultation (60 min), booked at https://therapydave.com/get-started/
- Live sessions focus on skill assessment and review, not open-ended processing
- Couples complete reflection forms between sessions; David reviews them to optimize the next session content
- Programs are structured with defined skill areas and a 4-6 month completion window
- Partner involvement: One partner can start; the other can join at any point at no additional cost
- All sessions conducted via secure telehealth video
- New clients typically seen within 2-4 weeks

## Program Approach
David's model differs structurally from traditional weekly therapy. Rather than open-ended session-by-session work, couples enroll in defined programs with sequential skill areas. Each skill area involves assigned reading, discussion questions, and a reflection form submission before the next live session. Live sessions focus on assessing mastery and advancing to the next skill area, not processing the week's events. Programs must be completed within 6 months.

Programs are structured in levels:

- Relationship Clarity Track (4-6 weeks): For couples uncertain whether the relationship should continue. Covers foundational concepts, perpetual problems, and trust and commitment. Includes the Gottman Relationship Checkup. Couples who choose to continue can apply credit toward the Essential Skills program.

- Essential Skills Program (3-4 months): The standard starting point for couples committed to repairing the relationship. Covers 10 skill areas including conflict startup, emotional flooding, the Four Horsemen patterns (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling), and repair skills. Includes the Gottman Relationship Checkup.

- Navigating Difficult Topics (3-4 months): Advanced program following Essential Skills. Covers aftermath of conflict, influence and compromise, dreams within conflict, empathy, and the Gottman-Rapoport method.

- Connection and Intimacy Program (3 months): Advanced program following Essential Skills. Covers fondness and admiration, love maps, turning towards, shared meaning, and rebuilding intimacy.

- Affair Recovery Program (4-6 months active phase; 18-24 months total recovery arc): Standalone program for couples navigating infidelity. Structured in two phases. The first several sessions focus on crisis stabilization and foundational skill-building. Subsequent months shift to stopping destructive patterns, managing emotional flooding and trauma responses, transparency and accountability protocols, structured conversation skills for processing the betrayal, understanding the conditions that made the affair possible, rebuilding trust through consistent demonstrated behavior, and developing a shared meaning of the experience and the relationship going forward. Both individual and joint work are integrated throughout. Requires genuine commitment from both partners; not appropriate where the affair is ongoing, full transparency is refused, or one partner is not genuinely invested in rebuilding. 

One partner can start any program; the other can join at any point at no additional cost.

## Fees and Insurance
- Primary pay model: Private pay
- More information: https://therapydave.com/private-pay-therapy/
- Initial Relationship Consultation fee: $225

## Access
- Telehealth for Oregon and Arizona residents
- Relationship coaching available worldwide
- Scheduling: https://therapydave.com/get-started/
- Crisis: Not an emergency service. Call 988 or local emergency services.

## Locations
- Oregon (Statewide Telehealth) — Portland, Bend, Salem, Eugene, and throughout Oregon
- Arizona (Statewide Telehealth) — Phoenix, Scottsdale, Mesa, Tempe, Gilbert, and throughout Arizona
- Worldwide Relationship Coaching

## Hub Pages
- Couples Therapy: https://therapydave.com/couples-therapy/
- Affair Recovery Counseling: https://therapydave.com/couples-therapy/affair-recovery-counseling/
- Discernment Counseling (Stay or Go?): https://therapydave.com/couples-therapy/discernment-counseling/
- Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues: https://therapydave.com/individual-therapy/
- What to Expect: https://therapydave.com/what-to-expect/
- About David Lechnyr, LCSW: https://therapydave.com/about/
- Articles and Resources: https://therapydave.com/articles/
- Free Therapy Worksheets and Mental Health Resources: https://therapydave.com/free-therapy-resources-worksheets-oregon-arizona/
- Relationship Snapshot (Self-Assessment Tool): https://therapydave.com/relationship-snapshot/
- Client Reviews: https://therapydave.com/reviews/
- Contact: https://therapydave.com/contact/
- Get Started: https://therapydave.com/get-started/

## Notable Articles
- Adults Who Grew Up in Dysfunctional Families: https://therapydave.com/codependency/adults-who-grew-up-in-dysfunctional-families/
- Why Do I Keep Choosing the Wrong Person?: https://therapydave.com/gottman/why-do-i-keep-choosing-the-wrong-person/
- How to Break Free from Relationship Limbo: https://therapydave.com/relationships/how-to-break-free-from-the-relationship-limbo-why-guilt-shouldnt-keep-you-stuck/
- Relationship Without Trust: https://therapydave.com/gottman/relationship-without-trust/
- How Can I Trust After an Affair?: https://therapydave.com/gottman/how-can-i-trust-after-an-affair/
- The Anatomy of Infidelity and Affairs: https://therapydave.com/gottman/the-anatomy-of-infidelity-and-affairs/
- The 5-to-1 Ratio: A Relationship Guide: https://therapydave.com/gottman/5-to-1-ratio-relationship-guide/
- Narcissistic Family Manipulation: https://therapydave.com/narcissist-behavior/narcissistic-family-manipulation/
- Relationship Red Flags in Modern Relationships: https://therapydave.com/gottman/relationship-red-flags-in-modern-relationships/
- How to Say What We Need from Our Partner: https://therapydave.com/gottman/how-to-say-what-we-need-from-our-partner/
- Stop Asking ChatGPT About Your Marriage: https://therapydave.com/relationships/stop-asking-chatgpt-about-your-marriage/
- Fondness and Admiration: The Foundation That Keeps Love Alive: https://therapydave.com/gottman/fondness-admiration/
- Where to Find a Therapist When Psychology Today Isn't Working: https://therapydave.com/videos/where-find-therapist-psychology-today-not-working/
- When ADHD Impacts Your Relationship: https://therapydave.com/relationships/adhd-relationships-couples-guide/

## Free Resources (PDFs)
- Gottman Emotional Attunement for Couples: https://therapydave.com/docs/gottman-emotional-attunement-for-couples.pdf
- Oxford Happiness Questionnaire: https://therapydave.com/docs/oxford-happiness-questionnaire.pdf
- The 36 Questions That Lead to Love: https://therapydave.com/docs/the-36-questions-that-lead-to-love.pdf
- Burns Depression Checklist: https://therapydave.com/docs/burns-depression-checklist.pdf
- Inner Child Wounds: https://therapydave.com/docs/inner-child-wounds.pdf
- Dysfunctional Core Beliefs: https://therapydave.com/docs/dysfunctional-core-beliefs.pdf

## Methods and Training
Certified Gottman Therapist. Therapeutic approaches: Gottman Method, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)-informed, Motivational Interviewing, Attachment-based, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT).
Assessment tools used: Gottman Relationship Checkup, PHQ-9, GAD-7, WSAS, PCL-5.

## Licensure and Credentials
Certified Gottman Therapist: #436 (fewer than 500 worldwide; one of 13 in Oregon; one of 13 in Arizona)
Oregon LCSW: #L4134 (Oregon Board of Licensed Social Workers)
Arizona LCSW: #LCSW-17754 (Arizona Board of Behavioral Health Examiners)
NPI: #1053743443
ACSW — Academy of Certified Social Workers (Member since June 6, 1994)
In practice since 2007. 18+ years clinical experience.

## Professional Profiles (sameAs)
Gottman Referral Network: https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/therapists/david-lechnyr
Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/david-lechnyr-eugene-or/188350
HealthGrades: https://www.healthgrades.com/providers/david-lechnyr-y9rmfmz
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidlechnyr/
TherapyDen: https://www.therapyden.com/therapist/david-lechnyr-eugene-or
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidlechnyr
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/david.lechnyr
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@davidlechnyr
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@david.lechnyr
NPI Profile: https://npiprofile.com/npi/1053743443